Have you ever wondered if the
person you like, or are dating is really the one you are supposed to be with? I
know so many people who get into relationships, just for the sake of being in a
relationship. But, that’s not how relationships should be. A lot of people are
settling. Settling for less than what God has for them. It breaks my heart to
hear my friends say they are with someone because “they give me attention” or
“I don’t think anyone else will love me”. They are giving up hope for the man
or woman God has for them. They are settling for what’s convenient and easy,
someone that they can have right now. Because we are human, we want to be able
to control our destiny. We would rather be in a relationship with someone we
shouldn’t be with, than have faith that God has someone else out there for
us. I’m not going to lie, it’s so hard
to just have faith that God knows what He is doing. But, He does! Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know
the plans I have for you, declares the lord, plans to prosper you, not to harm
you.” I am not, in anyway, an expert on relationships, but God is. I decided
to spend some time today really studying what the Bible says about
relationships. While your reading this blog post, keep in mind the person you are
with, or the person your interested in. Match them, and the relationship, up to what God
says. If your relationship, or the person you like, is missing a lot of the
qualities, you may want to reevaluate whether that is the person God wants you
to be with. Of course, no one is
perfect, so that doesn’t mean if the person misses like three qualities you
have banish them from your heart. No no, you wont find a perfect person, but if
they are missing most of the qualities, thennnn you may want to
reevaluate.
Okay, so Love! What is love? Isn’t the point of a relationship, to fall in love?
well…Its like..99% love, the other 1% is whether the person surprises you with a grande iced caramel
macchiato….Right? Yeah I’m pretty sure that’s right.. anyway, what is love?
Here are some things that God tells us is love in the Bible. Love is…
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
- · patient- (it isn’t rushed, love is a natural thing that develops on its own.)
- · kind (see how the person you like treats other people)
- · doesn’t envy or boast (meaning- they are content with what they have, not always desiring what other people have, and don’t think they are the most amazing person on this planet. You don’t want someone that’s going to put themselves above all else.)
- · Not arrogant or rude (you don’t want someone that’s going to be rude to you in a relationship. It goes back to “love is kind”. If the person is always rude to you, are they showing love?)
- · It doesn’t insist on its own way (which means not letting you have any input, pretty much saying “We’re going to do what I want to do.”
- · Not irritable or resentful ( when someone gets annoyed really easily, its almost like you have to walk on egg shells around them. That’s not fair to you in a relationship. You should be able to be yourself, and the person should love you for that.)
- · Does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices with the truth. (this pretty much means, for example: if you were to lie to someone, your special someone should be encouraging you to make it right and tell the truth, not rejoicing at the fact that you lied.)
- · Love bears all things (through thick and thin)
- · Believes all things (believes in the relationship, and trusts the other person, because when you love someone you won't lie to them. You can’t build a relationship on lies.)
- · Hopes all things. (They should have a desire for a future with you, if they can’t see a future with you, why are you together? )
- · Endures all things (Ah, I love this one. It means that no matter what struggles you go through, the person you are supposed to be with will be with you through it all. Because love endures all things. And the person you are supposed to be with will know that your worth it.)
2 Timothy 2:22
- · They should pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace.
2 Corinthians 6:14
- · “do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (Okay, I know that it may have upset a few people that I put that in here. But it’s in the Bible, and nothing in the Bible is false. If you think about it, it really makes sense, though. As Christians, we have the Holy Spirit inside of us, telling us what is right and wrong. An unbeliever doesn’t have that conviction that we do. Something that to us feels wrong, might feel completely right to them. Also, they won't be able to truly relate to what we are going through. As Christians, we struggle to always do the right thing, and be a person that God is proud of. Unbelievers aren’t living by our rule book (the Bible), they are living by the rules of the world. Hence the “unequally yoked” part. You should be with someone that running for God as fast as, or faster than you are. That should attract you to them.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
- · “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!” (be with a person who lifts you up when you fall, not someone that will leave you on the ground. )
Okay,
I guess I’ll stop here so I don’t make this a million years long, but I could
honestly go on for a while. I just want to leave off with this. Don’t settle
because you are scared that God isn’t going to come through for you. He ALWAYS
comes through. That is the point of faith. We don’t know the future, and we don’t
know who we are going to end up with, but God knows. If we are supposed to be
with someone, God has that person specially made for us. The most amazing
person, hand crafted by God to perfectly fit with us, Like a puzzle piece. We
just have to trust Him, and remember that He always knows what He’s doing. Well
I guess i'll get off my soap box now. *drops
mic*
Until next time <3
~Tory
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